Listen, I’ll be the first to come out and say it: Online dating is difficult. And let’s be real, I’m coming from a pretty easy background. If you’re someone whose experienced any level of a nontraditional lifestyle, that’s only going to make it more challenging. So is the case for our military and veterans, individuals who’ve sacrificed a more traditional lifestyle in order to keep us safe. If you’ve spent any time in the military, then you know adjusting back to everyday life can be a challenge. So I can’t even imagine how difficult it may be to date.
Regardless of whether you’re currently in the military or on the other side as a veteran, it’s helpful to address the unique challenges you may face, to better equip yourself to overcome any obstacles so you’re more likely to find compatible partners who will build meaningful connections despite your unique circumstances.
Understanding the Unique Challenges
Military and veterans face a set of unique challenges with navigating the online dating world. If you’re still actively involved in the military, then you may deal with frequent relocations or deployments, a required part of your service that can greatly affect relationships in your life. The uncertainty of where you may end up and the prolonged periods of separation can strain connections and make it difficult to establish and maintain a stable partnership.
On the veteran side of the question, many military individuals have expressed difficulty relating to civilian partners after having experienced potential trauma during their deployment. The disparity in perspectives, values, and daily routines can create communication gaps and hinder the development of a relationship.
By understanding these challenges, you can move forward into the online dating world by tailoring the experience to your unique perspective. So where do you get started?
Choosing the Right Platform
With online dating, there are several essential tips that military and veteran singles should keep in mind. It’s essential to choose the right platform. While you don’t need to pick a niche platform geared toward people in the military, it can be helpful to use an app that at the least caters to people who understand where you’re coming from.
Keep it Real
Always be honest about your profession and what you’re looking for. This is important for anyone who is trying out online dating, but definitely for someone in your unique position. Try to be transparent by being open about your background and intentions so you can set up a foundation for a genuine connection. This is even more important if you’re currently deployed and looking to start up a long distant relationship. While you don’t need to share information about your branch of service, if you’re currently deployed or about to be, definitely say so.
Online dating can be unpredictable, and finding the perfect match takes time and effort. Remember that not every interaction will lead to a long-term relationship, and that’s okay. This is especially important if you’re deployed, and looking for something long-distance. Not everyone is going to want that, but some will. Setting realistic expectations allows you to avoid disappointment and approach each interaction with an open mind.
Tips for Long-Distance
While I’ve never been in the military, I have been in a long-distance relationship, and I can speak from experience on the difficulty of it. Clear communication is everything. Regularly schedule video calls, send messages when you have the time, and don’t hesitate to find creative ways to connect with your partner to help bridge the physical distance.
Overcoming Trust and Security Issues
It’s common for veterans and people currently serving in the military to struggle with trust and security issues, especially if you’re doing a long-distance relationship. And there’s a good reason for it. Scammers will target vulnerable individuals, and platforms such as Social Catfish that can help you stay safe online.
Take Advantage of Military and Veteran Networks
You’re doing something incredibly amazing for your country, and because you’ve given something back to the people, it’s okay to take advantage of the opportunities you have when you return home. Military and veteran networks offer support and advice and can allow you to connect with people who know what you’re going through.
The military is all about community, and coming home can often feel like you’ve lost that sense of unity. By taking advantage of these networks, you can redeem a sense of companionship even if you haven’t found a partner yet. These communities can provide a sense of camaraderie and shared understanding. In the same sense, make sure you prioritize yourself before you date.
You want to make sure that you’re in a healthy place before putting yourself out there. But by utilizing these tips, you’ll be ready to do just that. You probably already know this, but if you can help keep our country safe, then you can definitely master the world of online dating. You got this.