Vibe Check: 14 Signs That Say She’s the One

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You’ve been dating her for a while. She’s cool, she likes to have fun, plus you both have the same weird sense of humor. But then you remember, isn’t that how the last relationship started? And the one before that? 

It took you a year before those “perfect” relationships blew up in your face and another few years to get over each one. But this one seems different. 

Unlike the others, are you sure this is your soulmate? Are you ready to spend the rest of your life with her? This article explores 14 clear signs that she’s meant to be your girl for life. 

14 Signs That Say She’s It​

You’re tired of the games. You’ve been playing the field for years, and you’re not getting any younger. So it’s time to settle down, but not just with anybody. 

Sure, you’ve been dating someone special for a while, but you’re still questioning whether or not she’s the one for you. Read on to find out if she’s your pot of gold at the end of the relationship rainbow.

1). She’s Your Person​

What exactly does this mean? Let’s set the scene. If you were to commit a crime (accidentally, of course), she would be the one person you’d call to hide you from the authorities. 

Plus, you know she wouldn’t utter a word to her Mom, her grandma, her best friend, or even her dog. So you wholeheartedly trust that she would take this secret straight to her grave. 

She’s the first person you call when something incredible happens. She’s also first on the list when you have a bad day. In other words, she’s the one you want to tell everything to.

Additionally, you keep no secrets from her. She knows all about your physical issues and lactose intolerance, and even through that, you know she loves just the same.

2). You’re Happy​

Are you happy? Not content. Not meh, but genuinely happy. Do you feel good when she’s around, and even when she’s not, the thought of her makes you glad to be alive? When you think about her, are you grinning from ear to ear? This may sound like an exaggeration, but it’s not. These are feelings you have when you’re in love.

Your friends may complain about your relationship, stating things like, “You spend too much time with her,” and “What kind of spell did she put on you?” 

But you don’t care. You can’t wait to see her again because everything she says and does makes you smile–including some of her annoying traits. She makes you so giddy (yes, I said ‘giddy’) you wouldn’t trade her for a million and a half bucks! 

But then you ask, What about the arguments? Nope, you love those, too. So what if she ticks you off sometimes? You don’t care. That just makes the forgiving part that much more fun. 

Telltale Signs You’re in a Happy and Healthy Relationship​

You seem to love everything walking upright and breathing oxygen when you’re young. But, as you mature, you realize there’s more to it than just thinking they’re hot. Here are the telltale signs that let you know it’s not just infatuation. You’re in love!

  • You share your life’s goals and aspirations: While you don’t share everything, you discuss your future plans, like if you want children or where to buy a home.
  • You keep your own space: Sometimes, you can feel suffocated by your partner, but that’s normal. However, when you decide to take some physical time away from each other, you’re OK with it because it will be even more special when you hang out again.
  • You openly communicate: You have arguments, but that’s nothing new. However, to help eliminate some of those disagreements, you keep the lines of communication open. You regularly check in with each other to see how you’re feeling, and you have no problems discussing how to improve the relationship.
  • You accept each other: Regardless of beliefs or opinions, you get that your partner has their own voice. You may disagree, but you respect their views.
  • You have fun: You can have as much fun food shopping together as you can at an amusement park because no matter where you are and what you’re doing, you enjoy each other’s company.
  • Intimacy is as important as sex: Most experts would agree that sex in a relationship is essential. However, intimacy is as important.

You seem to love everything walking upright and breathing oxygen when you’re young. But, as you mature, you realize there’s more to it than just thinking they’re hot. Here are the telltale signs that let you know it’s not just infatuation. You’re in love!

3). She’s Supportive​

Life can be challenging, so the more people you have to support you, the better. Think about when you wanted to try something risky but lacked the kahunas to go for it. She’s the one that believes in you the most and offers support. 

Whenever everyone else laughs at your “stupid ideas that’ll never work,” she’s the one in your corner, encouraging you to try. She has never ridiculed you for your opinions, no matter how outlandish they are, and offers her assistance through every circumstance.

You aren’t afraid to confide your deepest ambitions and desires to her because she’ll back you up. Even though you don’t see eye-to-eye on everything, she gets that you have your own opinions. 

7 Ways to Show Your Girlfriend You Love Her without Saying a Word​

She loves and supports you. Now, it’s your turn to show how much you love and appreciate her. You don’t have to spend tons of money to do it. Here are 7 ways to show her she’s the one who has captured your heart.

Ask Her How She’s Doing

Often, we get caught up in our daily routine that we stop connecting with our partners. So when asking how she’s doing, ask about a specific task.

For instance, inquire how she’s doing on that project she started last week or how the new job is going. Doing this sounds simple enough, but asking about a specific topic demonstrates you’ve been listening to her and are genuinely interested in what’s going on in her life.

Actively Listen

There is a difference between hearing and actively listening. Most of us hear naturally, but it takes an effort to actively listen. To be a good listener, you also need to pay attention with the intent to understand.

In other words, while you absorb what she’s saying (hearing), actively participate in the conversation by asking reflective questions (actively listening). 

In addition, body language is a vital part of active listening. When she’s talking to you, be sure she has your complete attention.

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀• face her and look directly at her
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀• ut your phone away (or turn it off)
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀• don’t interrupt
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀• give a nod every so often

You are showing her that you are interested in what she’s saying and how she feels.

Stop Scrolling and Talk

In today’s world, it’s easy to connect with anyone, thanks to social media. Although being tuned in is excellent for your online social life, it’s not necessarily good for your relationship. Think about it; how often are you scrolling through social media and not talking to your girlfriend? What about checking email while having a conversation at the same time? 

Being disconnected is not only better for your relationships but also conducive to your mental health. So instead of checking out the latest TikTok trends, set aside regular time to focus on each other. For example, go out to dinner or take a hike. This shows you still find her exciting and enjoy being around her. 

Hang Out (Or Meet) Her Friends

Long before you met her, she had friends who were an important part of her life. So, if she asks, take some time to meet her gal pals. This shows that you have an interest in those closest to her and want to be included in their world.

Carve Out Some Time for Her

You wanted to bar hop with your buddies or catch a game of basketball, but then you realize it’s been two weeks since you hung out with your girlfriend. What do you do? If you want to show her how much you love her, you’ll choose her.

Of course, you’re not expected to hang out all day, every day, but sometimes make an effort to do something she wants. The key is to make sure her feelings aren’t an afterthought. 

Are you doing something with your boys that she may enjoy? Who knows, maybe all the guys are bringing their significant others on the bar crawl. If so, let her tag along. A happy and healthy relationship allows each person to pursue their interests while still carving out some time for each other.

Send Cute Random Messages

It doesn’t need to be a special occasion for you to send her a short “Thinking of you” text or a “Hello, Beautiful” email. The message doesn’t need to say much, but watch how it’ll make her day.

Tag Her on Social Media

A girlfriend’s major complaint regarding social media is that they feel their presence isn’t known enough, if at all. 

Show her that you want the entire world to know she’s your girlfriend, so tag or mention her in one of your posts. Please don’t wait until her birthday or Valentine’s Day. Instead, post a picture of the two of you with something sentimental like “My rock.” Sometimes, you don’t even have to say anything. She’ll just appreciate the acknowledgment.  

4). She Loves You for Being Who You Are​

Sometimes, our love for someone comes with conditions. For example, he has a good job, or she’s hot. But, when she loves you, even when you lose your job or fall on hard times, you know she’s the one. 

She loves your annoying and strange quirks but doesn’t judge you. She never makes you feel like a loser when you fail at something. She loves every single part of you, even the messy pieces, as you love her.

5). She’s There for You No Matter What​

Remember when you got sick, and your Mom was out of town? So who’d you call? Yes, your girlfriend, and wasn’t she there in two-point-five seconds with a bowl of chicken noodle soup in hand? 

She was there taking care of you, waiting on you hand and foot while you complained of aches and pains. If she’s been your day one, regardless of the circumstances, she’s in it for the long haul.

6). Your Friends and Family Adore Her​

If there’s a group of people you can’t fool, it’s your friends and family. But, of course, someone in your circle will pick up any fakeness, so if they like her, it’s a signed deal. But they all get along well and love her like their own. Sometimes, they even like her more than you!

They aren’t as invested in your relationship, which is natural, so they might not appreciate it as much as you. But if they take the time to tell you how much they like her, she must be someone special.

Woman getting along with boyfriends friends

7). You Argue, But You Learn from it​

Unfortunately, you’ll have arguments, but that’s typical. However, you should worry if you take jabs and try to hurt each other without discussing it. 

Sometimes, we say things we don’t mean, but when you do, take a cooling off period. Then, go back and revisit the issue and try to see where it went left. Learn to turn your epic fights into a learning experience and do better next time.

8). You’ve Never Felt This Way​

You’ve had girlfriends before, but you never felt like this. She may anger you, drive you nuts and get on your nerves. But she also pushes you to do and be better and supports you like no other. 

There will always be attractive women around, but it doesn’t matter because none of them gives you the sparks and butterflies she does. 

9). She Helps You Be a Better Person​

Before her, you enjoyed being a lazy, philandering dude who only got off the couch to refill the chips bowl. Now, you want to be a better person because of her. So, you unload the dishwasher, put the toilet seat down, and fold your clothes right out of the dryer. 

On a larger scale, you’ve returned to school, got another job, and started eating healthier. You push yourself to become a better person because she believes in you, and you don’t want to let her down.

10). You Are Willing to Do Anything for Her​

Do you feel like there’s nothing you wouldn’t do for her because you know she’d do the same for you? You and everyone else understand how meaningful your relationship is with each other. 

You both would cross the Sahara desert to be together. There isn’t anything you two wouldn’t do for each other, and you’re happy declaring this. If this is how you feel, she is the one.  

11). You’re Vulnerable with Each Other​

You take no issue with sharing your deepest, darkest feelings and all your intimate fantasies and desires. With her, there is no judgment, and you can be your true, authentic self around her. You can discuss your family secrets and know it will go no further.

As for sexual cravings, you can tell her anything, and within reason, she’s down with it all. No matter what, you can open up with her physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Woman comforting her boyfriend

12). You Put Each Other First​

Despite what you want, you put her needs first, and she does the same regarding your wants. You never take issue with compromising because it doesn’t feel like you’re losing or giving up something. Instead, it feels like you’re making her happy, so you’re more than willing to do so. 

For example, you let her choose the movie, but you pick the snacks. It’s no big deal to either of you because as long as you do it together, who cares? Now, that’s love!

If you are wondering whether she is the one, you are most likely already serious about her.

13). You’re Never Afraid to Apologize​

After a long and exhausting argument, neither of you has an issue with saying, “I’m sorry.” You both understand that disagreements and fights are part of a relationship and that if you want it to work, you will need to apologize.

Admitting to your error isn’t a problem. It’s the opposite. It shows you’re mature enough to do what it takes to get over a disagreement. It also demonstrates your desire to put the relationship first before anything else.

14). You’re Thinking About Your Future Together​

Are you already thinking of a lifetime with her? If you are planning adventures and going on trips together, you’re ready to build memories that last a lifetime. It also means she’s the one for you.

Not only are you planning trips, but you also make suggestions together. Again, this goes back to compromise, and you have no problem doing it. 

Is She the One? 4 Major Ways to Tell​

  1. If everything about her (her eyes, her face, her perfume, her sense of humor) makes you smile, you may be ready to make it official.
  2. If you’re even contemplating whether or not she has your heart, she probably already does. So don’t second guess yourself. It’s time to make your move.
  3. You have no doubt she’s in love with you. You know she loves every part of you, even your quirks and flaws, and you love hers.
  4. She’s your go-to person, and you tell her everything. Plus, you can’t imagine a life without her.

Most times, your heart already knows, even before you ask yourself if she’s the one. But we get it; you need to make sure. 

If she’s not the one, that’s OK. Keep looking. But, if she checks out with a majority (or all) of these signs, stop second-guessing and make it official. Congratulations, you’ve found the one!

Abigail Langton
Abigail Langton

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